Friday, October 16, 2009

am I really worthy

Well the first week of service was a disaster, Lo7 had her mother waiting on her and for some reason I could not get my submissive side to come out. I did many things to help Lo7 but I was not the submissive husband she needed at the time. Today I feel much more submissive and I will try and be the slave to her I have always fantasised about. Gee who knew the submissive side would be such a hard thing to do , especially when I have wanted it for so long. I would really appreciate any comments or guidance from Sub husbands or Domme wives.


hersforever said...


It's hard to quantify what will work for you when I can hardly tell you what works best for me. The best advice I can give is this: Don't think about you. I get overwhelmed when I look at my todo list and see how much there is that I have to do... but to change that, rather than look at the list as things I have to do, I think of it as things I get to do for her and it helps a lot. Even things that aren't directly for her (work) are for her -- because they are for my paycheck which goes to her in the end (well, to the family but without my job I wouldn't be able to take the time to pamper her).

Try to put everything into that perspective and maybe it will help.

subservient-husband said...

stay chaste. Do one thing for her per day she has not asked for. Ask for some rules and then read and follow them.

just some ideas off the top of my head.

Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Hi Kb7:

Go easy on yourself my friend. It's not always easy to slip into subbie mode, especially when the pressure is on and the situation is as far away from sexy as you can possibly imagine. The situation you describe would be a challenge for me as well. Actually your post touched on something I was thinking of writing about which is that sometimes I just don't feel subbie at all. Instead I find I become very "me focused" and petulant like a spoiled child. As long as I am aware of it and I see it coming I can head it off at the pass. It's a lousy state of mind to be in so it's really important I don't let it take over. Self awareness is so important.

I think you will do just fine. My advice is don't beat yourself up and continue to cultivate the quality of willingness. Hersforever is quite right that looking at a long list of "to do" items can be quite daunting. Just concentrate on one task at a time and put one foot in front of the other. Before you know it you will have forgotten all about yourself and you will be serving your beloved! ;-)

charlie said...

Don't worry- life will return.It is difficult to take a back seat to the mother and sister also- you'll always play second fiddle to them. Remember to do one thing at a time. And when you feel yourself slipping, step back and remember where you've been and where you want to go. Just out of curiosity, what type of surgery did she have?