Saturday, November 27, 2010

Fed up...


Usually when you hear from Kb7 it is pre-fantasy or post fantasy. Kb7 is generally seeking advise how to fix his BAD behavior or asking for the appropriate punishment. Well the punishment is not really a punishment it is what he desires, so are we really helping or condoning his behavior?
This is a lifestyle I was approached with and consented to, why is it such a continuously fight and struggle? kb7 flip flops between vanilla and the true blue person he really is. I get used to the loving , attentive, doting pussy whipped slave one day and then I get the stubborn, sarcastic and sometime verbally mean man I am married to.
I have instructed Kb7 to make his confession public to our loyal followers...you will be the judge and jury.
The other morning I stopped by the office to start a little tease session with Kb7, I was wearing my skinny jeans with my black suede over the Knee boots, black Lacy Victoria Secret push up bra under my new Lacy sheer black blouse....when I walked in the door Kb7 was obviously agitated, I was put off by his rejection. I walked back to the door said I was going Christmas shopping, he said yeah see ya! I said "gee this submissive lifestyle is sure working for you hey?" KB7 told me to "SHUT UP!" ....Let the jury decide .
I continuously struggle for power, our vanilla lifestyle is much more peaceful yet not full filling...so confused and frustrated!
Sincerely,
LO7 xo

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Kb7 is an idiot and doesn't deserve you.
A pity...
Don't pay attention to him and he'll come back pleading in a while.

Best regards,

Alex

LockedLaura said...

Assuming he is currently secured, he needs more teasing. In fairness he might be real stressed by something else, but communicating about life is a huge part of the play. [and if he is secured, Alex is completely correct, he will come back pleading]

At all Times said...

KB7 sounds like an ordinary guy who is turned on by being dominated when it suits him, but is not a true submissive.

I am not surprised you were put off by his rejection, no excuse for that. It maybe that he really wants you to lay down the law and constantly treat him like a dominatrix, which is probably unrealistic behaviour or undesirable from your point of view, or as I have said likes to play the submissive when it suits him, but is not prepared to submit on a full time basis.

Ask him what he wants, then choose what you want, if he can't see that a life of submission on your terms is not for him then he is an idiot.

Ladyof7 a veiw from the top said...

I agree with all of the feedback. At all times you nailed it WOW! Comparing the submissive side to Kb7 and the stubborn and argumentive Kb7 they are polar opposites. When Kb7 flip flops between the two roles it becomes very difficult and frustrating.
This lifestyle should be when it suits me, wouldn't you agree?

._. said...

I think he need to really take the time (and you) to research and discuss this lifestyle. Talk to subservient-husband.blogspot.com and see what he has to say. Then come back together and talk about what each of you want. This could be a vanilla sex with kink situation, role-play or a true lifestyle. Kb7 needs to be completely honest with himself and you.

Anonymous said...

"This lifestyle should be when it suits me, wouldn't you agree?" It should be as it suits and pleases both of you. I've been in and around the Dom/sub culture and met lots of people, but very few who are a "good sub" 24/7. It sounds much more like the limits, boundaries, and rules have not been defined. I highly recommend "Different Loving" "Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual" and "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns".

It sounds like but people have entered into this lifestyle without a good understanding of what each wanted and without self education on the part of both.

Beware anyone who does nothing but affirm what you already think, they probably have other motives.

kept by 7 said...

I was being a smart ass with my closing comment..."This lifestyle...when it suits me!" I agree we need to do some more research and really determine what we both want and expect from this lifestyle. This is/was a fantacy of Kb7s and I am a willing participant. Thank you for your comments and ideas.

At all Times said...

I am going to agree with you LO7, but with a small caviat. And that is that whilst you should expect a consistent level of submission, and a certain level of service that you can or should define, you will have to understand what motivates KB7 and what it is that you need to do to keep him motivated.

I can't remember whether he does or not, but it sounds very much to me that KB7 would benefit from being made to wear a chastity device. In that way you would definitely hold the key to at least one aspect of his obvious sexual motivation, and at the same time have an emotional and constant reminder that you are in control.

I do remember however some pictures of your beautiful legs, keeping KB7 under your foot....!! How can he resist you?

little shaun said...

I think an appropriate punishment would be to deny him the satisfaction of submitting to you in any form for an amount of time. Then you can see if he feels any remorse for losing the privilege.

EsEm said...

Dear LO7, I read your post to Madame. She said that first you should not let him ever talk to you like that "SHUT UP" and get away with it. She said that you should of set the boundary right there and say if he talks to you like that then you will no longer continue being dom to him. He will then apologize for is action and think about it next time he wants to blow up at you.

Anonymous said...

I gotta disagree with some of the comments posted on here and there's one issue with this that makes his reaction somewhat understandable....this lifestyle was taken to his workplace. That's a no no cause there are real life consequences such as loss of job that could occur by having a teasing session at work. Public play is ok if both parties are ok with it but it should never take place at a person's place of business. Perhaps a better way of having control when he's at work is a chastity device under a pair of panties. Trust me when I say there's nothing that reminds you who owns you more than trying to figure out how to go to the mens room without everyone seeing pink lace under the stall.