Thursday, August 19, 2010

Ideas I found for LO7

Handy Reference for the Dominant Wife Who Doesn't Mind Indulging in D/s Once In A While

A list of personally recommended domestic disciplinary procedures with helpful comments from practitioners and recipients, mostly extracted from the She Makes the Rules site.


RESTRICTIONS:

1.Grounding
Weekend Grounding - Friday evening until Monday morning he stays in the house and gets a long list of to-dos. All plans are cancelled no matter how long ago they were made. He won't forget to take out the trash again!

2.Porn Surfing
"She does control my surfing. One time she noticed that I had erased my history and she got upset. Since then, I am not allowed to erase the history and she'll do a spot check every once in a while. She said if I do, she will buy Net Nanny and install it. She knows I come to this site but I do not go to any other adult related sites anymore."

3.Cash Allowance 
"At first, the idea of my wife controlling all our finances was a turn on. Then it was a scary and humbling experience at the same time. I was sacred to leave myself so vulnerable as to entrust my future well being to another. I was also humbled by her control of my cash allowance and had to ask for her assistance when I needed it. Now the arrangement has become the norm."

4.Chastity
"His commitment to chastity has special meaning because it deals with your control over his most fundamental pleasure of the human experience. The sexuality of chastity is blatantly the fact that a woman is controlling her husband's sexual release...so it has extra powerful significance. For this reason, we tend to emphasize its importance to D/s relationships. However, although more sexually charged, it is really no different than any other routine, task, or challenge to which a submissive husband is compelled to comply."

"Many women find that a man becomes more willing to please, becomes more submissive, when he has gone without an orgasm for a period of time."


CORPORAL PUNISHMENTS

1.Paddling
Corporal discipline should be given in a firm and authoritative tone indicative of training or to bring attention to an inappropriate behavior. Never give corporal discipline in anger. 

2.Strap-on
"This isn't something she's done to me much, maybe a half dozen times at the most.  It is all about power and submission, and she really gave it to me. This was the most physically aggressive she had ever been toward me. Physically it was very uncomfortable for me, and somewhat humiliating, but psychologically and emotionally it was wonderful."

3.Corner time
"As much as I hate standing in the corner, we find it to be an effective part of discipline. It most likely is assigned before and after a spanking and is always pants lowered, usually for 10 - 30 minutes, no bottom rubbing or speaking (unless spoken to) allowed. I have to hold my testicles while in the corner one in each hand. 
While I generally resent being sent there, after a few minutes, I find myself reflecting on what got me there and how dumb I was to do whatever it was I did to end up with a red bottom, standing in the corner, while she is off watching television, chatting with friends on the phone, or just doing normal things. But if its before she spanks me I get really nervous."

4.Soap
Is he whining or talking back to you? Good old soap in the mouth works wonders. 
Put a bar of soap between his teeth and make him hold it there until you are finished with him.

5.Restricting clothes
Prevent him from wearing any clothes or give him embarrassing clothes to wear such as a colorful house dress. 

6.CB3000 with insert.
No self-control? Erections will be the last thing he'll want with the spiky 'points of intrigue' inserted.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

FLM wins

LO7 and I both agree we are happiest and at Peace when we are living the FLM lifestyle.
Our biggest problem is me staying submissive which keeps LO7 dominant. I guess it is not natural for either of us so we really need to communicate and get back on track, which is what we promised each other we would do starting as soon as LO7 get back from her camping trip. We would love to hear ANY suggestions or experiences in this lifestyle that may help us stay focused 

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

a week at the beach

LO7 will be away camping at a local lake for a week. I will not be joining her but if i was i imagine this picture would explain my duties

Monday, July 19, 2010

Monday, July 12, 2010

Tick Tock

LO7 really knows how to keep me on my toes
Friday came and went with no call to start re- training
I guess the waiting is all PART of the training!!!
kb7

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

boot camp

I have always had submissive fantasies, Lo7 is new to the Domme roll, but learning very fast. We juggle between vanilla responsibilities and our secret life. L07 has decided we have been exploring long enough, She has an idea what she wants out of my submissive side but needs to "tear me down and rebuild me".
I have to agree that I do control when I feel like being Sub and that is very frustrating for L07 so she "read the riot act"
When she is ready, she will inform me on a Friday morning and I MUST
1)Clear all plans for that weekend
2)Have groceries and a menu for a light meal Friday night.
3)At 5:00 pm Friday-5:00pm Sunday all my rights and freedom I am accustomed to cease, and I must go directly home and  proceed and obey any instructions I receive  from LO7 without question .
4) If Lo7 is not home and there are no instructions I must simply strip and put all my possession's in "her master bedroom in a box she will provide.
5) Naked , I must now simply wait for my Mistress to arrive, being stripped of rights I may not turn on a TV/radio/computer or eat or drink I must just stand or kneel which ever Lo7 has required and wherever she has required ,me to do so and wait for her.
6) Lo7 has also informed me that any time I am in the waiting mode. I must be using my brain to think of nice things I can do for her , Meal planning , surprise romantic evenings etc. She has also informed me that this is a very important task and while she may be relaxing with friends having a glass of wine I must be using this down time to better our lives. This task of rebuilding my submissiveness is very important and when she does get home the ideas and commitment I share with LO7  will determine where I sleep that night. Bad=garage floor Through Excellent = Master bed
7) LO7 has assured me that we will have a weekend of full Mistress -Slave lifestyle (and by slave she assures me i will not as much as breath without her consent) complete with humiliation private and public, discipline and lots of pampering for her. At the end of the weekend she will review and together we will sit down and talk about what works and does not work for us. LO7 will ultimately make the decision on how much control she will retain from decision making, financial issues and our sex life. LO7 has also warned that if I disobey or even speak with out permission she may end the weekend at any time and this she says would be very detrimental to our future relationship. 1 Last request LO7 has ask me to do is to ask readers for there input on what other things we should explore in this boot camp weekend.
So now I only can wait for her 5:00 o'clock call.
kb7